
My friend Matt and I enjoying a "Selfish" moment
It seems this little word, ‘selfish’, has gotten a bad rap as of late. We live in a society that preaches we should put ourselves last, help others, sacrifice for those who need it. I am a big believer in all of that, who doesn’t want to live in a world where others are outwardly focused? There is one key left out here though, who takes care of those doing all the caring??
It’s similar to being on a plane. Before we take off we are told “In case of an emergency, the oxygen masks will fall from the ceiling, please put yours on first before helping others”. We have to do it this way, right? Although looking around on airplanes, I notice most people flipping through a magazine, checking their iPhones one last time, not paying any attention to this. I think it is because this is common sense, “Well of course I will put the oxygen mask on first, how else would I breathe??”. When it comes to something so simple, it’s like our brains don’t have to think about the next logical step.
SO – to all you out there who start the day with a long to-do list, have a million errands to run for your family, sacrifice all you have for your children, I challenge you: spend 20 minutes a day doing something extravagent for you. Sit in silince with a warm cup of coffee, stare out the window, daydream, meditate, turn OFF the phone, whatever it is for you. Feed yourself each day, in a way that benefits only you. Do THAT for others, treat yourself well, tell yourself YOU are worthy of a little sacrifice. If we don’t start putting ourselves first, how in the world can we take care of others and continue to give?
A very wise teacher, fellow yogi, and dear friend changed my life during a yoga class – she said “Sometimes you need to be a little selfish in here so that you may be more selfless when you walk outside”. Smart lady!
Today I really took the time to soak up the cup of morning coffee, laughed with mamas-to-be, rubbed some big-mama pregnant bellies, took a yoga class, and hung out with some really cool kids. I may have overdone my selfishness for the day but boy do I feel good!